7 signs of a truly undisturbed person, according to psychology

Most people complicate their lives by pursuing things that do not bring them the joy they desire. I know this because I have fallen prey to the stupidity that society pushes on us. People are incredibly easily swayed by what others say is important because we value the words of those we perceive to be of high standing. But I’ve learned that most truly untroubled people who seem to have it together aren’t necessarily fulfilled—they exhibit other rare signs instead.

Here are 7 signs of a truly untroubled person:

1. They make commitments that no one else makes

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Life is a game and you won when you were born. Everything else is play, so act like it. While the insane masses roam the Earth just trying to get through another day, you’re here, making insane commitments that vibrate your soul. Go big. stop crying Aim high and fall according to the energy this dare gives you.

Research published by the Central European University suggests that making commitments that others won’t, often referred to as “moving on” or taking a “bold stand,” can lead to positive outcomes such as increased personal growth, leadership insight, and a stronger sense of purpose. However, it is essential to consider the potential disadvantages of isolation and the potential side effects depending on the context and the commitment made. Studies often focus on the psychological factors that influence such decisions, including personal values, self-efficacy, and the desire for impact.

2. I value simple things

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It is easy to believe that what seems unattainable is of greater value than the things we ignore in our “pursuit.” But when we reach the top, we realize that everything we wanted was joy in the simple things. Why start later when you can enjoy the simple life right now?

A 2012 study found that appreciating the small pleasures in life can contribute more to lasting happiness than other factors. To enjoy the simple things in life, you can focus on what is pleasant, nurturing, and supportive in your life and away from what is annoying, frustrating, or hurtful. You can also practice gratitude for everyday things that are easy to take for granted.

3. They get paid to do what they love

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Studying to be a doctor because that’s what your parents want is a terrible life strategy. It is much better to get paid for what you love most. It is a delusion that this is a failed strategy.

The internet has allowed us to monetize almost anything. You can get paid to write. You can get paid to make films about insects. It’s the mindset you need, don’t find the ‘right job’.

Book by Brooke Erin Duffy Don’t get paid to do what you love: gender, social media and aspirational work asks readers to consider the stakes of not getting paid to do what they love and how to match the ambitions of creative workers with their desire to work for exposure.

4. Break some rules

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Success is hard when everyone is playing on the same field. And yet the “rules” are followed because people are afraid to appear as outsiders.

Follow your gut, be a freak and do things your way (without breaking the law, num nuts). This starts with understanding the rules and the status quo. Now you have a signal to show you the way: other mode.

An MIT Sloan Management study found that nonconformity is a characteristic of creative achievement and can lead to benefits such as being noticed, being authentic, and innovative thinking.

5. They see problems as opportunities

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This mindset will probably change your life more than anything else. Most people spend their entire lives walking on eggshellsworried and scared.

They are frustrated and wonder why they haven’t found their happiness yet. The living among us have made peace with mistakes. Because of this, we are not so afraid. And when we are not so afraid, everything becomes an open door.

Research published by the Journal of Positive Psychology on problem perception focuses on how individuals interpret and evaluate situations as problematic, influenced by factors such as personal experiences, cognitive biases, social context, and emotional state, leading to variations in how people perceive the severity and potential solutions to the challenges they face. Key findings include people tend to overestimate the severity of problems based on their past experiences, social comparisons can influence how one views a problem, and framing a problem in a positive or negative light can significantly alter perception.

6. They fall in love with things that bore other people

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Do you want a secret? Find a way to enjoy the things that matter but most people turn their noses up at. I didn’t grow a large audience constantly looking for novelty. I did what mattered again and again.

But I found a way to enjoy sitting at my desk and immersing myself in new, written worlds. Find the things that many avoid and get intimate with them. Let those things fall in love with your presence.

7. They make room for the quiet voice

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Most of us listen to our critical voices as if they were rushing to hold a shovel. We have so much to protect, so we listen to the voice that seemingly has all the answers to save us.

But this voice is a false prophet. It only knows how to protect the part of you that was never real in the first place. You are more than that. You are free, creative and wild. The quiet voice he has your back if you’re willing to listen.

The research referenced in a Brain and Behavior Research Foundation article shows that taking time to relax can significantly improve effectiveness by reducing stress, improving focus, boosting creativity and improving overall mental well-being, leading to better performance at work and in personal life. Studies indicate that regular rest breaks can lead to increased productivity and better decision-making skills when returning to tasks.

Alex Mathers is a writer and coach who helps you build a personal brand that monetizes your knowledge and skills while maintaining mental toughness.